It Feels So Difficult to Put Ourselves Out There, But We Must and Here’s Three Steps to Do It

by | Oct 17, 2022 | Aligned Actions and Practices

We’re back to a new week and things have felt like a whirlwind. The Zone of Purpose™ Blueprint is getting an upgrade! Plus, I’ve been trying to put myself out there more through video and audio recordings, just so y’all get to know me beyond my written words.

To be honest, it’s been hard to put myself out there. I’m afraid of failing, being an online sensation level of embarrassment, or seeming fake. I don’t want to go viral or make people feel like shit about themselves because the online world (and daily world) can feel so competitive already…

So, why do I suggest we put ourselves out there? For those of us who want to make a change in this world, I see it in two parts: energetically within ourselves and outwardly in our choices, actions, and words.

For those who prefer the audio version of this post, click the play button below.

Working Within Ourselves: Step One

To make change the first way can be very private and personal. Sharing words, viewing events, or living through circumstances, can be and get downright ugly. And that’s why it’s hard to be vulnerable out there and share from the heart.

But as we develop our own sovereignty within ourselves and know our worth and value, it becomes our armor. Our armor starts internally and expands outwardly, and that’s why I keep trying to build it even through writing, podcasting, and video sharing.

What does your armor look like? What are you creating, or protecting, within yourself so you can share your wisdom and essence with the world? Just marinate on that.

Working Through Expression: Step Two

As we share our wisdom, intentions, and change-making activities, we need to find what works for us to start with. For me, I started blogging many moons ago as writing is more comfortable for me. Even then it felt ominous! Then, I remembered a previous job where I had a radio show with a friend and colleague, and how much I loved those 1:1 conversations that inspired and uplifted. So, next up was starting The Zone of Purpose™ Podcast.

Now, I’m practicing—with all the nerves—being on video more often. I’ve started sharing my written content and podcasts on YouTube, and here’s a trick… At first, I was so damn worried about being a complete fool, to be honest. But then I reframed it: I thought of the folks out there who prefer or need video content more than the written word or audio clips. So, voila! I took a new step, to put myself out there, because it serves in a better, more inclusive way.

If you’re feeling nervous about sharing your wisdom, what reframe can you think of that’ll make it semi-less scary or more comfortable for you to do?

Working With Others: Step Three

The last step: work with others! When we create a circle or community, it makes being vulnerable and expanding a little bit easier. When I’d see new content by peers on LinkedIn, I thought, “Wow, they’re so brave!” Well, guess who is getting a little braver as well? When we see content and are inspired, why not try to do it in a similar way? You have a chance at sharing your heart song with others and helping them grow.

If you’re still feeing too nervous to try a new mode of communication, start to create your circle of support. It makes a difference knowing we’re not alone when we pivot or try something new! Bonus tip: if you see someone using a medium, platform, or method, that you want to try, reach out to them, and get some pro-tips! Buy them a virtual coffee or name-drop them and their brilliance and see your work and theirs flourish!

You have Purpose within you – even multiple purposes! I know, that may not be a popular idea, but neither is being an Anti-Career Guide with some. If you don’t share what’s within you, my friends, others are missing out… Not to guilt trip you, but to create more of an impact, we have to speak up in ways that work for us and creates that ripple effect.

So, go toe that line of discomfort, start to put your toe into that water, and see that ripple effect expand! Or do a cannonball—you do you! If you need help jumping off that dock, join The Zone of Purpose™ Blueprint and you can find that information by clicking here!

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